What Others Had to Say

So, yeah. June 16th. It pretty much sucks.

And it always will because it’s the anniversary of my brother Tim’s passing.

Think it gets easier with time? Um, not so much. Harder, actually.

Honestly, am just actually starting to accept Dad’s passing — and that was almost 10 years ago. Yeah, this is two years for Tim.

I know a lot of you have read the posts in my archives. Thank you for that. Means a lot. Really does.

And, if you’re a fairly regular reader here, you know I usually mark these certain anniversaries with either a letter or a post dedicated with my words.

Not this time.

I just don’t have the words right now. I tried. Have sat in front of the computer for a couple of hours, thinking the vibe will come at some point and then I can just bang out the tribute post and away I’ll go.

Again with the not so much.

Then something did strike me. I didn’t need to use my words. Nope. I can use the words other people used to express their feelings to us at the time of Tim’s passing.

Who knew the online obit had such value. But it did. People could leave comments and thoughts. Many did. So I captured them. A dear blogging friend created a great book for me and my family and now we each have a memory book, so to speak, with a copy of Tim’s obit, the eulogies my brother, nephew and I gave and then the comments from friends and family.

So, because I’ve really got nothin’ right now, here is a sampling of what some said about Tim.

“It was an honor to work with such a noble and passionate man.”

“I was very sad to learn about Tim. He taught me a lot and we had a lot of fun travelling together.”

“I can only begin to tell you how much I respected and cared for Tim. He will be missed and a void will always remain with me.”

“We have all been blessed to have shared a part of his short life. He has left us, but he will not be forgotten.”

“I think what I admired most was his outstanding moral and ethical beliefs and the love and pride he had for his family.”

“Tim was a phenomenal leader and a great friend. I looked up to Tim and had nothing but respect for him.”

“I’ve known Tim for more than 20 years. He was highly respected by all that knew him for his professional expertise and leadership skills. More importantly, he was highly regarded as a kind and caring human being.”

“He was a good friend and a great man. His passing will leave a large void in many lives.”

“The industry lost a giant, the plant lost a leader and your family lost a great dad and loving husband.”

“The phones here have been ringing off the hook about Tim. He touched a lot of lives and was respected by all for who he was.”

“It has been an honor and privilege to work for Tim over the years. He treated me as a co-worker, not as someone under him. For that, I have the utmost respect for who he was and what he taught me. I am grateful that I was given the opportunity to work for and learn from him.”

“For me, working for Tim has been the best in my career. It is a rare occasion that one finds a person of Tim’s magnitude in this day and age. Yes, Tim had his own family, but he left one at work as well.”

“Very few have truly earned the respect that Tim did in such a short time on earth. Even in difficult times, Tim had a way of making things look simple and easy.”

“Please be proud to know that Tim left a piece of him with each of us who worked, befriended or walked alongside him.”

“Be comforted knowing how respected, appreciated and well-liked he was by his peers.”

“He always seemed to have time to talk bikes with me at work. Shhh, don’t tell anyone! He was a great guy and a great rider.”

“Tim was the most respectable man and had a wonderful sense of humor. He knew how to make you smile when things weren’t going well.”

People say I’m good with words. And, you know, for the most part, I agree. But, in this case, I can’t really compete with what these people said about my brother.

So, you know what? I won’t.

2 Comments on “What Others Had to Say”

  1. Anna says:

    Completely amazing. What a treasure to have all those words that, together, help all of to us know the brother you lost. I’m so, so sorry, Mike, but I am so glad I could read all of those truly wonderful memories.

  2. Carrie says:

    It is a hard day and will be. I can’t tell you when, or if, it does get easier but cherish words like these as they are true great treasures. You are right there is no need for you to find the words today. You have these to remember and hold on to.

    Its ok not to have the words, which as the “word guy’ is obviously hard for you. You and your family have Tim in your heart where it counts – words or no words. He is here with each of you. Every day. Each in your own way. Smile and remember. He watches you always and does the same, as does your Dad.

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