Why I Hate January

Well, maybe hate is too strong of a word, but you’ll get the point in a few minutes. Stick with me.

There’s no reason to really hate January, per se, as much as there is to hate either what has happened in the past or to be reminded of something at another time of the year because of a connection in this month.

That said, prior to this year, I had two reasons to hate January — and, of course, they are death related.

The end of the month marks the annivesary of my Dad’s death. January 30, 2000. It’s almost impossible to imagine that Dad’s been gone for nine years. You’ll read more about this later this month, but it’s the first reason why I hate January.

Reason number two? Well, a couple weeks before that, January 17th, to be exact, is the day my twin brothers, Tim and Tom, celebrate their birthday. Only problem with that? Tim celebrates his in heaven now, next to Dad. Tim died in June 2007.

So now what do I do for Tom? Had this struggle last year, too. The fact that they are twins means there are things I’ll never understand about the relationship they had. And that’s fine with me. Totally fine. I just wish it would give me some insight into what to actually say to or do for Tommy on his birthday.

Because things usually come in threes, I, of course, have another reason to hate January. And that’s because of Mom, who today (tuesday) is on her way to Boston for some preliminary surgery procedures.

Yup, surgery scheduled for mom on Thursday.

And, heck, not just your basic surgery.

Nope, we’re talking the open heart variety. Yup, potential is there for this to be triple bypass. It will at least be double and possibly will be triple, depending on a couple of things that will looked at during surery.

Her surgery will be in Boston — at Beth Israel, which is Harvard’s teaching hospital. So, this is no run-of-the-mill place with run-of-the-mill doctors.

Does that make it any easier? Of course not.

The doc says, yes, this is major surgery, but it’s a procedure they’ve done thousands of times.

Does that make it any easier? Of course not.

The fact is, my Mom is having open heart surgery on Thursday. That’s a sentence you don’t ever want to write. As I said, she gets admitted to hospital today for some preliminary testing. Assuming everything is good to go, she’ll go under Thursday morning — followed by a multiple day stay at the hospital before coming home.

Once home, it’ll be another couple of months before she’s back to normal — probably about the same amount of time for me, too.

11 Comments on “Why I Hate January”

  1. fritz says:

    Good luck with all that! youre in my thoughts!

  2. Sara says:

    Hang in there…you mom is in the very best hands. And I know that does not make it easier but I hope love and support from your friends can. Sending one of my very best hugs your way….

  3. Meredith says:

    I will be thinking of you and your mom on Thursday. You and your family are in my prayers.

  4. JenBun says:

    Mike, I’m so sorry. It’s SO hard when an entire month just reminds you of difficult times.

    You’ll make it through…

    And I’ll be thinking about your mom all week, and I KNOW she’ll be great!

    Please keep us updated.


  5. You and your family are in my thoughts.

  6. Janette says:

    I’m keeping your Mom and your family in my prayers. She is in great hands.

  7. Barb says:

    My thoughts are with you and your family….

  8. Carrie says:

    Mike, If anyone knows how you’re feeling its me. I’ve been there on many of these fronts you face this month. Its a weird kind of a bond we share.

    My only advice (not that it makes any of it any easier) is good thoughts only!

    For your Dad and Tim, smile, laugh, and remember them in their best days. That’s how they are now – strong, handsome, full of energy and looking down and smiling on you and your family. If their sense of humor is anything like yours, they are probably laughing at you too 😉

    For your Mom, positive only. She’s got great strength that’s clear and draws from all of you. Yes this is a hard, stressful time. It isn’t easy, but draw from each other and from all of us – your friends. Good thoughts pile up to make for great outcomes!

    My good thoughts have been and will continue to be on their way.

  9. Stephanie says:

    You and Renee are in my thoughts. Stay strong for all of your family…I know that Renee will be there waiting for you with a hug and all of her love.

  10. Chelle says:

    As I said before, I’ll be sending as maybe good vibes your way as possible.


  11. Erin says:

    I pray everything goes well today… you and your family are in our thoughts.

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