2009 — The Resolutions

Ok, I’m putting them out there. Why not? Need to try and be accountable. I sometimes have trouble being accountable to myself, but if I put these out there, I almost need to be accountable to you — in order to not let you down (a strange form of motivation, don’t you think?).

But, before getting to 2009, let’s take a look back at the 2008 resolutions (in the archives if you want to read the entire post) and see how we did. Not terribly good, I’m afraid.

This is what I wrote (with my notes after each one):

Well, here are five things I’m bringing to you, 2008.

1. I will continue to work on Forty by Forty. A long way to go, but I am making progress. It might not sound like a big deal, but since November 1st, I’ve only had doughnuts on two occasions and McDonald’s on one.

RESULT: I did pretty well here. The official first-year loss is  just shy of 30 pounds. But, I’ve stumbled in the last couple of months. Need to get it back.

2. I will continue to work at learning how to eat better and, most importantly, I will excercise more.

RESULT: I definitely learned how to eat better, and, for a great deal of the year, i did just that. Need to get out of the slump. And, oh yeah, the excercise thing.

3. I will keep working to be the best parent I can be. It’s not always easy. There can be amazingly frustrating experiences. But when Erin smiles or Aidan says, “Dad, can you play with me?” Then  you know it’s going to be a good day.

RESULT: Honestly, it gets harder and harder. Patience is not something I  have a lot of. And I am tested daily (often multiple times). I think I’m doing a pretty good job, but I know how frustrated I can get, and I know I can do better.

4. I will start the college plans for the kids. They each have money. They each have an account. We are saving, but it’s time to start the actual 529 plans.

RESULT: Sadly, did not accomplish this. We have continued to contribute to the kids savings accounts, but I’ve got to get the 529 thing underway.

5. I will be the best blogger I can be. I know, it sounds like a cop out just to get to number five, but it’s true. I will work to be here more because, well, apparently you like it that way.

RESULT: That’s for you to judge, but the madness of the year took me away from here in big chunks. Some of you are still with me, and that’s an amazing thing. True friendships have come from this. I can only hope that as I continue to write, more of the same will follow. Even though that’s not the goal of this, it’s a pretty cool thing when it happens. So, I thank  you for sticking with me.

So, overall, I’d call the grade for meeting last year’s resolutions an incomplete. Did some things very well, but didn’t close the deal, so to speak.

As I get ready to unveil my resolutions for 2009, the goal here is to accomplish all of them. To be able to look back and be proud of the accomplishments.

OK, here we go, 2009.

1. Meet the Forty by Forty goal. I got well more than halfway there in one year. This is the ultimate test of my ability to get back to something I was so successful in and seal the deal. More updates on the overall program later.

2. As part of that, exercise. This is separate because it needs to be. It’s not just part of one goal, it needs to be life-changing. I need to get back in the routine. I was on the elliptical tonight for 22 minutes. That might not sound like much, but the machine hasn’t been used since May. Yeah, May. One day at a time.

3. Health update. I’m 39. Haven’t had a physical in a few years. Oh, and did I mention my dad died at 65 and my brother at 45. And Mom is having open heart surgery next week. I’m  not making light of this. I should have been at my doctor’s office within a week of my brother’s funeral. I wasn’t. And if you know me, you know there’s enough guilt inside me already. But, in my defense, that’s why Forty by Forty was started. I knew what I was going to hear, and I wanted to get a head start on it. I was scared. Quite frankly, still am. But, I already have a physical scheduled for the 14th — and I’m sure we’ll be talking about all sorts of stuff. One step at a time.

4. Financial future for the kids. Not starting the 529s was a mistake. Need to get that done this year.

5. Continue to be the best dad I can be. Why is it a resolution? Because it’s hard work. I have my moments. We all do. I get frustrated very easily. I’m not necessarily trying to rid myself of the frustration, but to find better ways to deal with it. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. And I just want to (continue to) do it well.

So, there you have it. A look back at 2008 and five resolutions to work on for 2009.

I’ll keep you posted as we go — but here’s hoping next year’s recap of these resolutions is a good one.

How about you? Working on any big resolutions this year?

7 Comments on “2009 — The Resolutions”

  1. molly says:

    I have a feeling you’re going to do really well this year. My list includes figuring out what I really want to do, working on my confidence and saving for a new house.

  2. We are always hardest on ourselves! You say “not terribly good” this year and i would disagree! So often we look so harshly on our downfalls but look at what you have done!
    You are BRINGING SEXY BACK! You look GREAT!
    You have a loving wife!
    You have the most beautiful children!
    You are a great DAD!!
    You are a great Friend!
    So there is room for improvement? If anyone can, you can!!

    What more could you ask for? Happy New year friend!!

  3. Sara says:

    I love these goals….You are going to rock all of them. Yes, I know this for a fact.

  4. Janette says:

    Couldn’t agree more about the amazing progress you’ve made and the encouragement this provides others to get going. I’d like to buy a seat on Mike O’Farrell bandwagon! Keep on blogging and keep the faith. You’re doing great!

  5. JenBun says:

    I think you did GREAT last year, and I am back for even MORE this year!! 😀

    My resolutions… yes… I made some vague ones, but I think I am going to take a week of the blog and really work out the 5 most important ones.

    Thanks for sharing these with us… and HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

  6. Chelle says:

    Hoping all goes well with your mom this week. Will we see you @ work? Let us know if you need anything, K?


  7. Jeanne - 12 says:

    So . . . where are you on this one????? Getting down to the wire!!!

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